Our Generation

After having a long random conversation with my mom, my 2 great aunts, and myself, we covered alot of topics but basically everything was surrounding the topic of... our generation. My generation, and even my mother's, but moreso mine. My generation is ultimately all about letting it all hang out. There are no more secrets, there is no more privacy. Alot of men are becoming openly bisexual and, don't get me wrong I have NO problem whatsoever with homosexuality because I have tons of gay males as friends -love them btw :)- but what hope do any of us successful, independent, single-straight male seeking women have left when our only options are either cheating good-looking men, successful fine bisexual men, good-looking drug dealers and ofcourse broke regular adoring men. Now there is nothing wrong with a man that's broke who has potential, and adores the ground you walk on...who truly loves you; then you've found a diamond in the rough, the only hard part about that is sticking it out, and riding it out with your man. But with time, you never know... he could be the fine, successful man you made better and stuck through it because love was enough. These are the fairy tales we all like to believe and try to make reality, but we are LIVING in reality... and the reality is women have become adjusted to settling. We are settling for the successful, wealthy man that we've made okay for him to cheat because he's draping me in diamonds and a lavish lifestyle, so what do I have to complain about. It's okay to settle for the man that is dealing on the side, stealing, breaking every law humanly possible, because I'm not a basketball wife but he makes me feel like one, he treats me like one...btw, these men are also almost ALWAYS cheating on you as well. We're settling for any man PERIOD because the pickings are short. Most of them have gone to play completely for the other team, so what choice do we have? I've even seen some women settle for the bisexual man that is fine as wine, but the woman feels hey, I'm old, ugly and I don't have it any better than this. Women have become tired and are simply settling for the simple fact to fit into society's opinion that if you are over 30 and are still without a man, something has GOT to be wrong with you...not the man. My generation has basically lost its values...its value period. There is no more full package... we've gotta take it as they come. But shouldn't we want more...we as women...shouldn't we WANT more from him? And if he can't give it to us, then shouldn't we just let him go...or are we worth it?

Slavery...

So I'm watching the Color Purple, and I'm sitting here thinking to myself... what exactly was the POINT  of slavery? I watched the scene where Celie is in the supermarket and the preacher's wife is holding her daughter, the conversation passes and a (ofcourse racist) white man or store keeper scares the crap out of Celie to the point where she just runs out of the store. The white man looked puzzled and another on-looking white woman looked scared/disgusted. What was the point of her looking at her that way? She wasn't an alien, she wasn't some kind of demon, or bacterial disease walking the earth...she was a human being. So why did they even bring us here from a whole other country? Why because they were extremely insecure with THEMSELVES and disgustingly lazy that they decided to travel 50,000 miles across the country to Africa to find people to do their work for them? And on top of that do the most horrible, despicable and inhumanly disgusting things to another race... and then with a smile on their face call us "black monkeys" "niggers" and any other degrading name they could think of...this I ask was for what? To make yourself feel better? I came up with all of this because just seeing that extra in the movie (white lady shopper) look at Celie in that way as if she ASKED to darken your doorstep with her presence. Bitch! you brought her here so why look at her as if you never wanted her here in the first place...that's extremely backwards and stupid to me... But we're the dumb "black monkeys"....Hmmm.

Girls and Video Games

Okay so I have no problem with an occasional Guitar Hero or like Mortal Combat or something, but up all night playing Call of Duty, or NBA 2K12, or Madden...is absolutely ridiculous to me! How does one manage to manifest that much energy to practically go blind bleeding their eyes out til 4am....to play...a game? Yeah, something's gotta be wrong with that. Is there nothing else creative to do in the day that you need to devote that many hours to....a game? Me personally, I am too creative a person to be stuck doing something for HOURS...unless it's productive. Even when I'm sewing a garment I cannot sit there for hours doing it, like I need to take a break every once in a while. I believe most guys get lost in the games living out there high-school fantasies in a virtual reality and the longer they can stretch it out, the better. Some girls are able to entertain this and often join in, but be careful. Men want a buddy and the booty, but if they start to feel TOO comfortable with you like you're one of the dudes... I don't think your man will find that sexy. I just got an epiphany that maybe that is why men don't like their women to play video games with them or know more sports than them, because sports and video games is their escape from us. That's their chance to be lazy, dirty, and just plain ol guyish with their friends...men don't wanna do that with someone they think is sexy and wanna cuddle with. maybe some men find a guyish girl sexy...I dunno, it's just my opinion.

Girls and Sports

When it comes to sports, I am the most girliest girl you can find. I am like old school Betty Crocker housewife- he watches his sports and I'll do my girly things. I am glad however the young women of my generation have evolved past that 60's mentality... I however remain stuck. It's a shame really seeing as I've grown around sports all my life. ALL of the men in my family make it an event, any boyfriend I ever had practically live, sweat, and breathe it, one of my family members actually made a career of it! Maybe it's just because I never grasped the damn concept of sports, so I never took the time to understand it. My best friend is basically a tom boy and all her family is extremely competitive in sports, and guess what...I'm almost around them 24/7, still nothing's rubbed off on me. It sucks I can never be apart of the uproar and statistics' debates of the players but I have NO clue where to begin on how to learn. Is it true what they say...that the best way to a man's heart is through food and sports? I guess I got half the package, but screw that damnit I want to be the full package? Alright where do you start people, how does one learn the rules and concept of basketball, football, or any other of these torchurable past-times?